Sandy_Woo

Moved this to the top for those who can't be bothered to read further:
Anyone who has a profile reading "hetero-male seeking female" is unlikely to have a friend request accepted unless they explain why in a message.
Now read on....

"Here to see whatever there is, find out what others are up to and make contact if others have similar interests" is what my profile said for a long time (OK, so it still does) but I wasn't going to tell everything at the outset.

So many friend requests, so many puzzles! I don't mind requests from men, I always look at your profile and existing friends; so many must be "in the closet" even if they don't admit it, so often no mention is made of orientation or seeking contact with a CD. A friend request from a male with no profile info and no indication of orientation isn't going to be accepted unless you message me or something. A message is always a good intro anyway, isn't it? ( I'm amazed at how few do send a message and how few reply to mine).
If you are male and have your profile set to private, why would I accept? I'm certainly not looking for an "alpha male" and nice as your cock may be, it isn't the main attraction for me. I think I can more easily relate to other CD/TS. Yes, I understand those who say they are 'admirers' but I'm wary of some who claim they are otherwise straight male. If you don't tell me with a message, I'll make assumptions.
A well dressed gurl is always more attractive than a hairy bloke wearing nylon panties.

Anyway, more about me: I'm from a somewhat different background / orientation to many on here, but certainly a CD/TV, (not transsexual so no surgery (and after one try, no more hormones). I am emotionally much more fem than simply "tranny". I do try to dress elegantly, not just tarty, but nice underwear, well, a gurl just can't help it!. I have dressed to some extent since my early years (as I find so many have here), now I have an extensive wardrobe, not just underwear, though I have lots of that. I love heels and boots, but not so much platform soles. My shoe photos aren't very good, next time I'm with someone I must get them to take some better ones, but there is always something better to do it seems ! At least the extra height from heels doesn't mean I tower over everyone. Trying to get nice photos of boots is easier said than done.
I really am NOT "sub", really don't get off from CP, S&M etc. but can play domme for anyone who does get off that way ( and yes, I know lots do!). I'll go along with "games" of all sorts, just "don't you cum on my new suede shoes" (or on a dress which needs dry cleaning - there is a story there). I tend not to respond well to being ordered around and am not willing to be a notch on someone's list of "having a tranny". I have reservations / concerns about some of the terminology being used; I think it originates from the US. Abusive and degrading name-calling does not impress me. The obcession with "bbc" is as degrading (bordering upon racist) for others too, friends who identify as black are not just a cock (there are some large ones attached to white males as well); sometimes big can be too big, and in the dark, who's to know.

If you are wanting to make contact, do try more than just "hey" ! Always happy to chat -time permitting- and can manage more than the one or two word exchanges favoured by some. I'm happy to share experiences if that is what anyone wants to know about, I have lived rather disgracefully at times, you may find that I have "been there, done that".

It seems to be a common problem, so I stole this from someone:-
"....GOING TO TRY AGAIN,: IF YOU HAVE AN ERECTION OR DICK FOR AN AVATAR AND YOUR FIRST MESSAGE IS EITHER 'CAM' OR 'SKYPE' I'LL DELETE YOUR ARSE STRAIGHT AWAY!...." !!

September 2021: The "friend request list" was getting silly so I have deleted almost all more than a month old. So, if you sent a friend request, have read what I have written above (if you have read this far...) and want to "ask again", please do so....but have a think as to why I didn't get back to you last time !

Edit July 2024: xh has closed all of my photo galleries and become ever more restrictive so many comments make much less sense.